Love Is Spoken
In Many Different
The need for love is common to us all, but it isn’t the same for everyone.
We all need love in some way, and each person loves in his or her own way, but just getting on with it, without thought, may not be the best approach.
People who are loved don’t usually overdose on self-loathing but according to Glamour.Com, 97% of women find their bodies disgusting everyday. Either they aren’t being loved at all, which I doubt, or the love they’re getting is lost in translation.
A part of the problem may the human tendency to take the simple approach. Treat everyone the same. No thinking is required. No special effort is made. We just do for each person what we always do. And it’s usually what we’d like done in return.
If you’re a thinking person you realize that that approach is an insult to individuality. There is a difference between taking someone out for a movie and going to a movie, dragging them along with you.
It’s now common knowledge that every person’s receptors pick up love signals in different ways. We have Gary Chapman to thank for that. His book, The 5 Love Languages, makes the argument well. [Read more…]