Divorce And Joust
Are Not Synonyms
Jason is a divorce attorney, coach and advisor who assists people who can’t afford attorneys with the divorce process. Divorce can be difficult but according to Jason can happen expeditiously and with less expense if attorneys coached more and officiated less.
It’s a novel idea. He may have a point.
A few of his salient points are:
- Divorce is a business transaction between people entangled in an emotionally stressed relationship.
Business and emotion don’t mix. The emotions generated between splitting couples is sometimes acrimonious. It doesn’t help the business end of the process. According to Jason, trying to sort out the emotions during divorce can be very expensive.
- Divorce is made worse when couples try to rehash all the marital problems that led to divorce.
It’s only natural to look back but looking back, Jason says, is an issue for therapists, not attorneys and judges. Hindsight should be consulted before the divorce or after but it only impedes progress during the divorce.
Sounds cold but it makes sense.
- Divorce isn’t a happy time but it is a time of relief in abusive cases and an opportunity for change even if only one spouse is disenchanted.
Jason says marriages are unhappy places even if only one party wants the divorce. He didn’t get into reasons why disenchantment occurs but, again, he makes an interesting point. Why would any self respecting person want to stay in a relationship where they aren’t wanted?
Jason runs a FREE divorce support group where people going through the divorce process can meet others going through the same issues and ask questions.
Elsewhere In Divorce
Laura Lifshitz learns why you should never refer to your child’s father or mother as your EX.
- And In Israel,
The Resolution of Family Disputes Law (aka The Divorce Revolution) was enacted on Sunday, 17 July 2016. The law requires divorcing couples to attend four mediation meetings – free of charge – and is designed to reduce hostilities. The law was promoted by Justice Minister Ayelet Shaked.
- And lastly Fidelity,
Offers a very interesting article siting several professionals on how divorce affects social security benefits.