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“Children Need Little Attention” – John Rosemond

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New Six Point Plan For Raising Happy, Healthy Children by John Rosemond

Chapter Review
“The Parent-Centered Family”

Child raising is a science, an art, a project, a responsibility and a privilege.

It requires nurturing skills, intelligence, prayer, time, energy, determination, intentionality and desire.

Sounds daunting but not too worry sacrificing oneself is not required.

In fact, John Rosemond says parenting done properly is not all consuming and the process can be quite rewarding for both parent and child.

In the very first chapter of his book, The New Six-Point Plan for Raising Happy, Healthy Children, an updated and expanded version of the classic he wrote on the topic, he says families should be parent-centered rather than child-centered. What a relief!

…The most destructive myth ever manufactured and sold to parents…but almost universally subscribed to…children need lots of attention.

John says, “the secret to raising happy healthy children is to give more attention to the marriage than you give to the children.” He also suggests that giving your children too much attention is like over feeding them and we are just as responsible to limit the amount of attention they receive as we are to manage their intake of food. Excessive amounts of either can have disastrous effects.

These aren’t his words but he implied that giving a child too much attention turns them into self-absorbed individuals with over inflated opinions of their importance to society. They become all consuming social parasites. Everyone must constantly hear them, see them and/or entertain them.

John does say that the more attention a parent gives a child beyond what they really need, the less capacity they develop for: [Read more…] about “Children Need Little Attention” – John Rosemond

The New Six Point Plan For Raising Children by John Rosemond

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New Six Point Plan For Raising Happy, Healthy Children by John Rosemond

Clearly Written, Argued Philosophically
And Substantiated By Science

The New Six-Point Plan for Raising Happy, Healthy ChildrenChild Care Books) is an updated and expanded version of John Rosemond’s classic text on raising children.

Although John is a qualified psychologist who specializes in working with parents, children and families, much of his insight comes from raising his own children, Eric and Amy. Though his ideas are not fashionable, they aren’t new and he argues his points powerfully and illustrates them generously with anecdotal material from his experiences as a parent and a psychologist. You won’t find a more thoughtful and clear presentation of practical ideas for raising children.

He introduces the book with strong arguments for changing the way we approach parenting and then suggests six basic ideas to relieve parenting pressure and help each of us be more effective:

  • His forward, Read This First, argues that “the ultimate purpose of parenting is to help children out of our lives.” That idea alone is worth its weight in gold but is usually hidden behind all sorts of other sentimental child raising ideas and rarely gets a mention.
  • The Parent-Centered Family in which he argues that constantly lavishing attention on our children is like giving them far too much food.
  • The Voice of Authority suggests that children can and should obey their parents and he makes it clear that “asserting authority” does not qualify as “abuse.”
  • The Roots of Responsibility suggests that children only learn from their failures – which are inevitable – if parents don’t protect them from the consequences.
  • The Fruits of Frustration makes it clear that it is OK to say “no” to our children instead of meeting their every whim. Frustration is a normal part of every life and leads to desirable outcomes when managed well.
  • Toys and Play points out that an overabundance of toys often leads to “boredom” in our young. “Play” should be the outcome of imagination. It comes from the inside and is not induced by external input.
  • Television and Children argues that the amount of time a child watches TV – excessive according to surveys – is just as damaging as the themes we try to avoid.

Every chapter ends with a series of questions related to the chapter theme and answered by John. The book also has a closing and ends with Rosemond’s Bill of Rights for Children.

The book is clearly written, well argued philosophically, substantiated by science and includes plain old practical everyday wisdom which many psychologists have buried beneath new age ideas and clouded with semantics.

Tees For Everyone

If you care about your kids, and what parent doesn’t, read this book. You might not agree with everything John says but you will have to work hard to prove him wrong. The book will challenge your perspective even if it doesn’t change it.

As always, you can get it inexpensively through AmazonChild Care Books).

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